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Welcome to Surrogate Partner Therapy

Andrew Heartman is an experienced IPSA-Certified Surrogate Partner currently practicing in the San Francisco Bay area and willing to travel to other locations. Potential clients and therapists are invited to contact IPSA (the International Professional Surrogates Association) for an independent verification of his credentials and status in the organization and the profession.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
                                  Anais Nin

Carol's story:

Imagine a five-year-old being told by her mother "Do whatever he tells you."

These were the words I heard as my Mother left me in the care of my uncle. Hours later he told me that “we” needed a nap. I protested and again he reminded me of my Mom’s order. This predator proceeded to molest me and at times lay on top of me. I remember his stinking breath, his grunting noises, and the pain and bleeding. I also remember the horrific feeling that he was crushing me and I couldn’t breathe.

I have been aware that many things trigger the horror of that day. Throughout my life, including thirty years of marriage, I had always panicked when a man put his weight on me. I have relived the fear, the loss of power, and the absolute horror of not being able to breathe. At times I could manage this by continuously repeating in my mind “You are ok. He is not going to harm you.”

It is now 64 years later. As a result of my experience with Andrew Heartman I have been gifted with a new knowledge and I now have control of this. I felt very safe with Andrew, probably because I knew that Andrew had no agenda of his own, and that he was there only to support me. Before, I always had to convince myself that I was safe—to talk myself into it. But with Andrew I was able to experience that I am safe, and this experience transformed not only how I relate to men, but to the world in general. I found I had the confidence to attempt and achieve many things in the world that I had been afraid to before. I have gained the wisdom that I can choose, freely and powerfully, and this has unshackled me from a prison that spanned 64 years.

I am now free to choose a relation without “Uncle G.” in the bed. My thanks to you, Andrew.

Carol R.

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