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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
                                  Anais Nin

Recent Press

Based primarily on an interview with Andrew, What it's Like Being a Male Surrogate... was just released (4/27/15) on Alternet. He told the journalist he wouldn't participate with any article that refers to him as a "sex surrogate" (here's why). Although the title is disappointing, the content of the article itself is good.

Andrew was also interviewed on MaxVanPraagTV (5/1/15): Male Surrogate Partner Helps Women Achieve Relationship Success. See this on the Video page.

Male Surrogate's Passion for Intimacy is an article about Andrew that appeared in the San Francisco Chronicle on New Year's Day, 2013.

Also, on 12/26/12, Andrew was interviewed live on a podcast called Sex and the Divine Design. Andrew's episode, entitled, Sexual Empowerment, is described as follows:

Surrogate Partner Therapy is often misunderstood and misrepresented. Most people are not aware of the intent, the process, and the benefits of this therapy. In this episode, Surrogate Partner Andrew Heartman presents SPT as an opportunity to acquire developmental skills that have not been acquired previously. It is more than theoretical, it is more than experiential, it is developmental in nature. Andrew describes, using examples from his own experience, the growth and transformation that can result from this powerful form of therapy.

International Professional Surrogates Association

For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy, the Code of Ethics, latest media coverage, official policy statements, or if you are interested in becoming a surrogate partner, see the website of IPSA. It contains a wealth of information about the practice.

Carol's story:

Imagine a five-year-old being told by her mother "Do whatever he tells you."

These were the words I heard as my Mother left me in the care of my uncle. Hours later he told me that “we” needed a nap. I protested and again he reminded me of my Mom’s order. This predator proceeded to molest me and at times lay on top of me. I remember his stinking breath, his grunting noises, and the pain and bleeding. I also remember the horrific feeling that he was crushing me and I couldn’t breathe.

I have been aware that many things trigger the horror of that day. Throughout my life, including thirty years of marriage, I had always panicked when a man put his weight on me. I have relived the fear, the loss of power, and the absolute horror of not being able to breathe. At times I could manage this by continuously repeating in my mind “You are ok. He is not going to harm you.”

It is now 64 years later. As a result of my experience with Andrew Heartman I have been gifted with a new knowledge and I now have control of this. I felt very safe with Andrew, probably because I knew that Andrew had no agenda of his own, and that he was there only to support me. Before, I always had to convince myself that I was safe—to talk myself into it. But with Andrew I was able to experience that I am safe, and this experience transformed not only how I relate to men, but to the world in general. I found I had the confidence to attempt and achieve many things in the world that I had been afraid to before. I have gained the wisdom that I can choose, freely and powerfully, and this has unshackled me from a prison that spanned 64 years.

I am now free to choose a relation without “Uncle G.” in the bed. My thanks to you, Andrew.

Carol R.

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